Ahora si....los patos le tiran a las escopetas?!

The title to my posts  will be "dichos" or "sayings" from now on, mostly from my mom. She has plenty, trust me. So aside from those of you whom I've shared these with in the past, you can comment on what you think it means.

Today is my momma's birthday, she is turning 47. My momma is super cool, I love her. She is so un-materialistic that anything you give her, she loves. And odds are she would never buy it for herself. But my mom is also very unconventional for an older mexican woman.......or so I thought.

Do you know that women in their forties speak a lot about sex. Yes, sex. My mom included. She makes me blush and I have to contain an "ewwww" or "ahhh" because I don't want her to know how I feel about things realted to that. I slip, I do. I am so transparent.

Now in general, I think women speak a lot about sex. Ladies, it's true. I am not saying all of you. But most.   When I was working at the  school (shall remain nameless), the lunchroom staff (ladies) would come into my office to tell me about all kinds of situations (fantasies, extra-marital affairs!, ect). One of them once told "I just need a man, just a day a week!"

Which brings me to a question. Do all women become this frank? After all, these are not my best friends. I can call them friends (loosely).  Or do I seem so trustworthy that you would want to share that type of information?

I don't talk about sex in that way, I really don't. Is there something wrong with me? I am not afraid to talk  about it. I can, if I felt like it. But I don't have a desire to. It might be the mexican (from el rancho) in me.

Which then brings me to another related topic. Have you ever noticed how relationships/dating can become competitive. Let me give you an example. There have been times when someone (a girlfriend) is telling me about her partner (her man) and after a while, when most of the nagging has finished, I'll say something like "ohh, that hasn't happened to me" (translation: my man would never do that shit) and then she has to be like "well, let me re-phrase" and then try and make up for that by telling me something that he is wonderful at.

I wasn't trying to say that my man is better than yours! Don't get defensive. Hahaha! Just Kidding! I do that to. I defend my man! :) but I don't place myself in situation where I have to defend him to begin with.

But I think it's cool. It shows that you care and so I want to set up a rule.

Here it goes:

When you want to speak on something your partner can improve on (notice the language I used, I did not say, "a flaw, a deficit"), always follow that by something he is great at (I hope that it is more than sex because I have heard plenty of sex stories as noted above).